It's not easy being a grown-up. You may have felt like you were invincible when you were in your 20s, but once you hit 30, something changes. The world is no longer your oyster, and the truth of just how hard it is to get ahead starts to set in. It's time for some tough love, so here are six things that people in their 30s should have realized sooner!
You are not invincible
If you're in your 30s, you may start to realize that there's more on the line than just what happened yesterday or last week. You might begin to wonder about retirement and whether or not you'll be able to afford it without taking on a ton of student loan debt. You also might start thinking about how things will go with your spouse when you hit retirement age. Perhaps, most importantly, you might start asking yourself: am I living the good life? What am I doing?
I was in my mid-30s before I finally realized that I wasn't invincible and had more responsibilities than just myself. Sure, it was scary to think about, but once I got past the initial fear of facing reality, I realized that it was okay.
IT'S OKAY TO ADMIT YOU'RE SCARED
It's easy to keep something bottled up inside in your 20s because everything seems so much less severe when you turn 25, but once you hit 30, the stakes are higher. You have more on the line, which means things have the potential to affect you more.
Yes, I'm talking about a mid-life crisis. If you're in your 30s and you feel like you may be having a mid-life crisis, there's no reason to feel ashamed of it. Take some time for yourself and figure out what's causing you to feel this way. Is it just because you're scared? Or is it something more than that?
It's hard to get ahead
If you're in your 30s, the economy probably isn't doing so hot. Many people have been struggling to find jobs since many companies have been hiring elsewhere. Even if you're one of the lucky ones who has a job that pays pretty well, it might not feel like enough. You want more money, and the chances are that you will have to work harder than you did in your 20s to get whatever it is that will push you over the edge.
I was in my mid-30s before I started to realize that it wasn't easy to get ahead anymore. Sure, things seemed to be more accessible when I was younger, but the truth of the matter is that you have to work harder than ever once you hit 30 if you want to make sure your life doesn't stay stagnant for too long.
There are no free lunches
The thing about life is that it's never going to be perfect. There may have been a time when you were in your 20s, and things seemed so much more straightforward. It might have been easier to get by without too many problems, but now that you're older, you realize this isn't the case. In your 30s, there is no such thing as a free lunch. You have to work for what you want, and there will always be someone out there who will like what you have- whether they go about getting it or not is a different story entirely.
Your twenties are the best days of your life
People in their 20s might want to take some advice from people who are a little bit older- just because you're in your 30s doesn't mean that everything is over. It may be the best time of your life! Sure, there will always be things about your twenties that make them unforgettable, but at least you know that the good times won't last forever. Once you hit your 30s, it's easier to appreciate what you have and live in the moment.
I was in my mid-30s before realizing that life wasn't all happiness and rainbows when I was younger. I thought many things would never change for me, but the truth of the matter is that people change, and things happen. I'm glad that now, even though I'm older, I know to take advantage of what life has to offer instead of taking it for granted.
The world doesn't owe you shit
It's easy to think that the world owes you something because of all the effort you have put in. I have been there before- I felt that just because I am an excellent worker, my job should be secure. However, life doesn't work this way. We are just lucky if we don't have to face uncertainty in our lives. When you hit 30, it is time to get over the mindset of entitlement.
Not having kids is not a deal-breaker
My mother always told me that getting married and having children was the only way to "live happily ever after". Having kids at some point in your life seemed like the only thing worth living for when I was in my 20s; however, as I grew older, I realized that this isn't the case. Now that I'm in my 30s, there are many things I appreciate more than having kids. Of course, every person has to choose for themselves because it will affect them infinitely more than it could ever affect me- but at least now I know that having a baby isn't the only way to live on this earth.
I was in my mid-30s before I realized that not having kids wasn't a bad thing. I had always thought that people who didn't have children were just afraid, but it's more than that at the end of the day. It just wasn't for me, and I got a dog instead.
People in their 30s are often faced with the harsh realities of life that they may not have been aware of when they were younger. But it's never too late to learn and change your mindset- you'll be happier for it! Our team is here waiting to work side by side with you on a plan that will do just that--help teach people in their 20s what not to take for granted in their own lives while also helping them understand what changes happen once we hit our 30s. What insights into your thirties did this article give you? Let me know below! If any of these things resonate with you or if you want help learning how to navigate through life, let us know today.
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